Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy
Based near Twyford, Reading, Wokingham and online
What Are Emotional Flashbacks? When the Past Feels Like It’s Happening Again
Emotional flashbacks happen when past pain resurfaces as an overwhelming feeling rather than memory, leaving you flooded with old shame, fear or helplessness. Rooted in childhood trauma or chronic stress, they can feel confusing and frightening. With trauma-informed counselling support, you can learn to recognise these flashbacks and feel calmer, safer and more present.
People Pleasing: Why It’s So Hard to Say No
Discover why people pleasing makes it so hard to say no and how it can affect your confidence, relationships and wellbeing. Learn where people pleasing behaviour comes from, how to set healthy boundaries, and how counselling can help you put your own needs first without feeling guilty.
What is the Power and Control Wheel? Understanding Abuse in Relationships
Does your partner control how you spend money, who you spend time with, or how you dress? Perhaps they twist situations so that arguments always end up being your fault, or use the children to manipulate your decisions. These experiences can be confusing and deeply unsettling, particularly when they happen gradually and without obvious violence.
Understanding Narcissism: Why We All Need a Little (And When It Becomes a Problem)
Do you find yourself labelling someone as a narcissist after a single selfish act? Or perhaps you’ve been called narcissistic for simply prioritising your own needs? As a counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I’ve noticed how the word “narcissism” has become a catch-all term […]
What is Dissociation? Understanding This Common Response to Trauma
Have you ever driven somewhere and realised you don't remember the journey? I know I have. Or have you felt like you're watching yourself from outside your body? Perhaps you've experienced moments where time seems to skip, or you feel disconnected from what's happening around you, like you're in a dream? These experiences might be […]
When Love Languages Don’t Match: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Your partner spent all day cleaning the house and running errands for you. They're expecting gratitude, but you're thinking, "That's nice, but when did we last have a proper conversation?" Meanwhile, they're confused why you don't seem to appreciate their efforts. Sound familiar? As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I […]
Discovering Your Love Language: A Guide for Better Relationships
If you haven’t got a clue what Love Languages are, please read my last blog. You may understand what love languages are, but do you know which one are you? And more importantly, which is your partner? As a counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen how this self-knowledge can be the […]
What Are Love Languages? Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever felt like you're constantly showing your partner love, yet they seem distant or unappreciated? Or perhaps you feel your efforts go unnoticed, while your partner insists they're doing everything they can? You might both be speaking different love languages. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen […]