Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy
Based near Twyford, Reading, Wokingham and online
Intergenerational Trauma: When Family Pain Passes Down Through Generations
Do you ever wonder why certain fears or reactions seem to run in your family? Perhaps you've noticed yourself responding to situations in ways that mirror your parents or grandparents, even when those responses don't quite fit your own experiences. Maybe you carry anxieties or beliefs that seem to have no clear origin in your […]
The 8 Tactics of Control: Breaking Down the Power and Control Wheel
In my previous blog, I introduced the Power and Control Wheel and why it's crucial for understanding abuse beyond physical violence. Now, let's examine each tactic in detail. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've witnessed how recognising these patterns can be the first step towards reclaiming your life. Using […]
What is the Power and Control Wheel? Your Guide to Understanding Abuse Patterns
Picture this: you're walking on eggshells in your own home. Every conversation feels like navigating a minefield. Your partner's mood dictates the entire household atmosphere, and you find yourself constantly adjusting your behaviour to avoid conflict. Sound familiar? As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen how these subtle patterns […]
Is Your Partner Gaslighting You? 7 Warning Signs You Can’t Ignore
Something feels off. You're questioning yourself constantly, second-guessing your memory, wondering if you're losing your mind. Your partner insists you're being "too sensitive" or "imagining things," yet that nagging feeling persists. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've supported many people who've discovered they were experiencing gaslighting - a form […]
Relationship Counselling: It’s Not Just for Couples
When you hear "relationship counselling," do you automatically think of romantic partners sitting on a therapy couch? You're not alone. But what if I told you that some of the most transformative work I do as an online counsellor in the Reading area involves mothers and daughters who can't have a conversation without it escalating […]
Understanding Couples Therapy: A Complete Guide for Partners
Do you and your partner find yourselves having the same arguments over and over again? Perhaps you feel like you're speaking different languages, or maybe the connection you once shared feels distant and strained? As an counsellor working with couples in the Reading area, I understand how overwhelming relationship difficulties can feel, and I'm here […]
PTSD Flashbacks: Your Complete Survival Guide
The world suddenly shifts. Your heart races, your breathing quickens, and in an instant, you're no longer in the present moment but thrown back into the past. The sounds, images, and feelings of trauma wash over you with an intensity that makes it feel like it's happening all over again. If you've experienced these overwhelming […]
Is CPTSD Sabotaging Your Relationships? Understanding Your Patterns
Do you find yourself pulled toward relationships that ultimately leave you feeling hurt or unseen? Perhaps you're quick to assume the worst when a partner is distant, or you find yourself pushing people away when they get too close. Maybe you swing between desperately wanting connection and then feeling overwhelmed when you have it. As […]