Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy
Based near Twyford, Reading, Wokingham and online
Understanding Narcissism: Why We All Need a Little (And When It Becomes a Problem)
Do you find yourself labelling someone as a narcissist after a single selfish act? Or perhaps you’ve been called narcissistic for simply prioritising your own needs? As a counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I’ve noticed how the word “narcissism” has become a catch-all term […]
What is Dissociation? Understanding This Common Response to Trauma
Have you ever driven somewhere and realised you don't remember the journey? I know I have. Or have you felt like you're watching yourself from outside your body? Perhaps you've experienced moments where time seems to skip, or you feel disconnected from what's happening around you, like you're in a dream? These experiences might be […]
When Love Languages Don’t Match: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Your partner spent all day cleaning the house and running errands for you. They're expecting gratitude, but you're thinking, "That's nice, but when did we last have a proper conversation?" Meanwhile, they're confused why you don't seem to appreciate their efforts. Sound familiar? As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I […]
Discovering Your Love Language: A Guide for Better Relationships
If you haven’t got a clue what Love Languages are, please read my last blog. You may understand what love languages are, but do you know which one are you? And more importantly, which is your partner? As a counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen how this self-knowledge can be the […]
What Are Love Languages? Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever felt like you're constantly showing your partner love, yet they seem distant or unappreciated? Or perhaps you feel your efforts go unnoticed, while your partner insists they're doing everything they can? You might both be speaking different love languages. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen […]
Understanding the Difference Between Guilt, Shame and Embarrassment
Do you find yourself confused by the tangle of uncomfortable emotions that arise when you've made a mistake or faced social awkwardness? Perhaps you've been carrying feelings that weigh heavily on you, but you're not quite sure what to call them or how to process them. As an online counsellor working with clients in the […]
Intergenerational Trauma: When Family Pain Passes Down Through Generations
Do you ever wonder why certain fears or reactions seem to run in your family? Perhaps you've noticed yourself responding to situations in ways that mirror your parents or grandparents, even when those responses don't quite fit your own experiences. Maybe you carry anxieties or beliefs that seem to have no clear origin in your […]
The 8 Tactics of Control: Breaking Down the Power and Control Wheel
In my previous blog, I introduced the Power and Control Wheel and why it's crucial for understanding abuse beyond physical violence. Now, let's examine each tactic in detail. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've witnessed how recognising these patterns can be the first step towards reclaiming your life. Using […]