Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy
Based near Twyford, Reading, Wokingham and online
When Love Languages Don’t Match: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Your partner spent all day cleaning the house and running errands for you. They're expecting gratitude, but you're thinking, "That's nice, but when did we last have a proper conversation?" Meanwhile, they're confused why you don't seem to appreciate their efforts. Sound familiar? As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I […]
Discovering Your Love Language: A Guide for Better Relationships
If you haven’t got a clue what Love Languages are, please read my last blog. You may understand what love languages are, but do you know which one are you? And more importantly, which is your partner? As a counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen how this self-knowledge can be the […]
What Are Love Languages? Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever felt like you're constantly showing your partner love, yet they seem distant or unappreciated? Or perhaps you feel your efforts go unnoticed, while your partner insists they're doing everything they can? You might both be speaking different love languages. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen […]
Understanding the Difference Between Guilt, Shame and Embarrassment
Do you find yourself confused by the tangle of uncomfortable emotions that arise when you've made a mistake or faced social awkwardness? Perhaps you've been carrying feelings that weigh heavily on you, but you're not quite sure what to call them or how to process them. As an online counsellor working with clients in the […]
Intergenerational Trauma: When Family Pain Passes Down Through Generations
Do you ever wonder why certain fears or reactions seem to run in your family? Perhaps you've noticed yourself responding to situations in ways that mirror your parents or grandparents, even when those responses don't quite fit your own experiences. Maybe you carry anxieties or beliefs that seem to have no clear origin in your […]
The 8 Tactics of Control: Breaking Down the Power and Control Wheel
In my previous blog, I introduced the Power and Control Wheel and why it's crucial for understanding abuse beyond physical violence. Now, let's examine each tactic in detail. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've witnessed how recognising these patterns can be the first step towards reclaiming your life. Using […]
What is the Power and Control Wheel? Your Guide to Understanding Abuse Patterns
Picture this: you're walking on eggshells in your own home. Every conversation feels like navigating a minefield. Your partner's mood dictates the entire household atmosphere, and you find yourself constantly adjusting your behaviour to avoid conflict. Sound familiar? As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've seen how these subtle patterns […]
Is Your Partner Gaslighting You? 7 Warning Signs You Can’t Ignore
Something feels off. You're questioning yourself constantly, second-guessing your memory, wondering if you're losing your mind. Your partner insists you're being "too sensitive" or "imagining things," yet that nagging feeling persists. As an online counsellor working with clients in the Reading area, I've supported many people who've discovered they were experiencing gaslighting - a form […]