Jan Scoones Counselling & Psychotherapy
Based near Twyford, Reading, Wokingham and online
The Blame Game: How Abusers Manipulate and Control Victims of Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse is a serious issue that affects individuals and families across the world. It can happen to anyone, regardless of their age, gender, or socio-economic status. One of the most insidious aspects of domestic abuse is the blame that the abuser places on the other person. This blame can make it challenging for you […]
Are you in an abusive relationship?
Domestic abuse is a serious issue that affects millions of people around the world. While many people associate domestic abuse with physical violence, the truth is that there are many different forms of abuse that can occur within a relationship. You may not even be aware that you are in an abusive relationship. It's important […]
Codependency and Control
Control is a powerful force that can impact our relationships in many ways. In the context of codependency, control can be both a cause and a symptom of the relationship dynamic. It is a pattern of behaviour in which one person enables or supports the unhealthy behaviour of another, often to the point of neglecting […]
Codependency and shame
Shame and codependency are often linked because shame can contribute to the development of codependent behaviours and relationships. Codependency refers to a pattern of behaviour in which a person excessively relies on others for their sense of self-worth and identity. Codependent individuals may struggle with setting boundaries, saying no, and may feel responsible for other […]
The link between childhood trauma and codependency
When we think of addiction, we often think of substances like alcohol, drugs, or activities like gambling. However, there is another type of addiction known as codependency, which refers to a one-sided relationship where one person, the helper, finds fulfillment through being needed. It can also be defined as a ‘relationship addiction’. Codependents lack a […]
Codependency: What is it, what are the signs and what are the causes?
What is codependency? Codependency is an unhealthy relationship with another person. It's a way of seeking approval and acceptance, and avoiding responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and behaviours. Co means two, so one half of the relationship will be the DEPENDENT, the Taker, and the other half will be the DEPENDEE, the Giver Codependency […]